40something adult sex dating
The persistent belief is that women are looking for long-term committed relationship and men are looking for short-term sexual relationships.
That may be true for younger people, but that isn’t always the case at this age, she says.
I realize people have different and sincerely held religious and personal views WRT when it's appropriate to engage in sexual relations in the context of developing relationships, and I can understand to some extent having this policy if you are a young, inexperienced woman being pursued by eager and aggressive suitors, but (IMO) it just strikes me as a bit overly precious for a fully grown adult women to hold to this standard, and expect that a reasonably desirable, well off, adult man is going to go along with this unless they (the man) are unusually devout (or desperate).
About a year after I had dated her, she told me that she had sex with a guy she had been seeing (she was still not married).
" It seems to me that the vast majority of people (not always women) who desire to abstain until marrige are not just looking for someone who will respect their desire to abstain, but for someone who will respect the reasons for their desire to abstain--their conservative Christianity.
If the potential partner doesn't wholeheatedly accept the religious commitment of the person in question, the relationship is never going to work, even if the abstainer gives in and puts out.
A recent study looked into why older women — in this case, women in their 60s and 70s — date. Some had lost satisfying relationships because the men wanted to get married but the women didn’t, sometimes because it would hurt them financially and sometimes because they didn’t want to have to care for anyone else anymore.
A few things became clear to the researchers early on — the women treasured their independence and craved companionship. In fact, many said they were not interesting in caretaking ever again — they’d been there and done that.