Dating mothers with kids
As part of this pattern, new mothers tend to cut their hours in outside work, which often leads fathers to feel more of the burden of financial responsibility.
A common pattern emerges in which dads start spending more time and energy on outside work and moms start doing an increasing percentage of the childcare and housework.
So, having children may make you miserable, but you’ll be miserable together.
Worse still, this decrease in marital satisfaction likely leads to a change in happiness, because the biggest predictor of overall life satisfaction is one’s satisfaction with their spouse.
The irony is that even as the marital satisfaction of new parents declines, the likelihood of them divorcing also declines.
In the effort to keep the family running smoothly, parents discuss carpool pickups and grocery runs, instead of sharing the latest gossip or their thoughts on presidential elections.
Questions about one’s day are replaced with questions about whether this diaper looks full. Fundamental identities may shift – from wife to mother, or, at a more intimate level, from lovers to parents.
Even in same-sex couples, the arrival of children predicts less relationship satisfaction and sex.
Beyond sexual intimacy, new parents tend to stop saying and doing the little things that please their spouses.